Kim Kirmmse Toth - Small Business Coach

Holiday Success: Starting Out With You.

By Kim Kirmmse Toth

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Do you truly believe that the most important person or most important activity is simply taking care of yourself?

Even if you do believe that, you probably often put yourself second or even third or even last.

That is a recipe for disaster, but I think you already know that. You have heard many, many times while on airplanes that you should put your own oxygen mask on your first, then your children, parents, whoever is next to you.

The same is true in life. If you can’t take good enough care of yourself, then you will not be able to take good care of others.

The holidays can be very fun and exciting, but they can also be very stressful. Most families don’t move through the holidays without a glitch.  I am sure there are some, but personally I don’t know any.

I believe my family and extended family actually do pretty well together, but I think every family has at least one person who likes to upset the apple cart.

So, what to do? Here’s my experience and my 2 cents.

  • Take the high road. It’s rarely worth an argument or a debate.
  • If you know what to expect because something has happened before at gatherings, ask yourself if there is something you can do to avoid or even lessen the eruption. (I don’t ‘do’ drama so I do anything I can to avoid it!)
  • Be sure there are supportive people around you so you are not alone in this ‘drama’ situation.
  • Ask for help if you think you need it.
  • Take care of yourself.

I know you hear all the time, to “take care of yourself”.

What does that mean exactly and how in the world will you find time to be able to do that?

I know it’s not easy. And I know it’s hard to hear that when you have so many other things going on; too many plates spinning, so where to start?

Here are some simple tips that you have heard of many times before. I am certainly not the first person to come up with these, but if you are like me, you need to hear things many times before they finally sink in.

  • Get at least 7-8 hours of sleep each night and make sure it’s ‘good’ sleep. Keep the room as dark as you can, even those pesky digital clocks that are lit up can be annoying. (For me at least.)
  • Drinking wine to help you sleep will backfire on you.
  • Exercise as much or even more than usual. It’s amazing what a 20 – 30 minute walk can do for you.
  • Plan ahead as much as you possibly can. I am a huge planner and can honestly tell you my table for a holiday dinner is set 1 or 2 days before the dinner. For me there is lots of arranging, extra leafs to be added, the table cloth, chairs from all over the house and on and on.
  • Pick as many recipes as you can that you can do ahead of time. Trust me, they come out just as marvelous as if you crammed it all into one day.
  •  Ask yourself: what is the best way for me to take care of myself to be prepared? You could try a massage, manicure/pedicure, meditation, talking to friends and the list goes on and on and on.

Please remember that you are in charge of your holiday, not in a bossy way, but in a way that can take advantage of all the goodness and wonderfulness that is around you.

Action Step: I gave you some ideas that I hope are helpful to you. Now it’s your turn to tell me what works best for you. What gets you through these fun and memorable times? And I can promise you, others would like to hear what has worked. We all get tired of hearing about things that don’t work!!

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    Feb 17, 2014

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